Trust is not earned

Trust is a tricky word.
They say trust is earned. I ever thought that trust is a mutual thing.
We can trust someone if they trust us too. For that, we need to be trustworthy.

But I recently realize that trustwortiness is not a quality that is possessed by an individual but a title given by someone to other people.
In trusting someone that we think is trustworthy, we don't have any guarantee that the person will not violate our trust.
We can put some constraint to ensure that people will not violate the trust we give, but then that shows our insecurity. Insecurity is a proof that we don't trust. So, how to make sure that someone is trustworthy ? Looking at their track records ? Maybe. But we will never know what will happen in the future.

My answer is, there is no guarantee that the person we trust is really trustworthy.

We just have to believe.

Because the second you try to proof their trustwortiness, that is where you lose your faith in them.

Trust can also mean surrender. Which means, it is something that we grant to someone and we lose control over it.

So, if you now are still trying to prove that someone you trust is trustworthy.
You might want to reconsider that.